Little Sir has now been in school for all of two weeks. Last April we talked in depth about delaying his school start for a year, but come September it was clear that he was more than ready to go to school. All of a sudden, over a few months, everything improved. His language was clearer and his vocabulary so much larger. He finally decided which hand was going to be predominant, and his pencil grip became stronger. When we were out and about he would always ask such in-depth questions about everything, so I knew he was ready. So, we decided that he would be starting school in January rather than September.
I have to be honest and say that I had my reservations about him starting school in January. Midway through a year is never going to be a good time to start school. Starting in September would have meant that he would have settling in days, had a slow start to the term, only doing a few hours and building up to more. Starting school in January meant that he was straight into full days. I guess I could have asked the school if he could go part time for a few weeks, but really it made more sense to just get him into the routine. And, thankfully, it looks as though I was right! Being a parent can be so hard sometimes. I find myself questioning my instincts, especially when everyone else is doing the opposite. I guess my mantra is ‘Do what feels right!’ and so far it hasn’t steered me wrong!
So, how has he got on at school so far? Well…
- In two weeks he can now read 4 tricky words and can make words from 5 different letters. He definitely couldn’t do this at the beginning of January!
- He is learning really quickly how to form his letters and hold his pencil correctly. I’d been quite keen to not get him to do this at home as I know boys take longer to develop the muscles in their hands than girls. But the time is definitely right for him now!
- A huge thing is that he is learning the rules of the world. He comes home and has told me that ‘cheating is not OK’, ‘play fighting in the classroom is not a safe choice’ and ‘you mustn’t eat your yoghurt first!’. All very important rules I think!
- Little Sir has always been quick to pick up on facts, and this is happening even faster in school. He comes home with a new fact everyday – from ‘adhesion is when two things stick together’, to ‘a triangle has 3 sides’ and ‘woodpeckers have long thin beaks.’ I love it when he tells me his new facts!
- His confidence in himself is growing quickly too. He’s so keen to show me new tricks he has learnt on his scooter and to tell me who he played with and how he made friends. His shyness is still there a little but it is being eroded on a daily basis with the care and nurture the school is showing.
Really, he is amazing me! Perhaps if he had started last September I would be saying the same things. I’ll never know. But I do know that, by starting school in January, I gave him an extra few months of bonding time with me. And really, there can never be too much bonding time, especially for adopted children. It gives them the feeling of safety, security, love and attachment that all children need. It allows them to go out and take on the world, safe in the knowledge that, at the end of the day, mummy or daddy will always be there to pick them up if they fall!
Have you delayed your child’s start to school, or are you considering it? I’d love to know how your summer born child got on if you delayed the school start!